Taking The Plunge

Almost three months of blogging and I still haven't went anywhere, with women or anything. But I have realized two important things: always have a positive mental attitude (PMA) and use the low threshold approach (LTA). What's LTA? The LTA states that you should never compare today's performance regarding women with yesterday's performance. In fact, you should state an easily achievable goal. For example, if you talked with 3 random women yesterday, don't push yourself to talk with 5 today. Not only is it too much stress, but more importantly, you'll feel bad if you can't achieve the threshold. This will lower your PMA, which will directly lower your success or confidence with women. So, whenever you approach women, don't expect anything good to come out of it, always stay positive, and be ready to take the plunge, like marines who jump out of the V-22 Osprey (pictured).

I Wanna Ride Like A Silver Dove

I've been watching another Japanese television show every Saturday night at 11pm. Aren't there a lot of those lately? It's called Good Luck!! and it shows the adventures of a new co-pilot on All Nippon Airways, the up's and down's of being a pilot on-the-job. After some research, I think I'll probably book a Trial Introductory Flight aboard the C152 for $2471. Not bad for one hour of flying experience. At least I can see if I want to pilot or be a passenger of a plane. Now, the only downside of this is that the C152 can only carry two people, the flight instructor and I. There's no room for female guests.

Never Doubt Your Ability

This is the phrase I'll chant to myself every time I approach a woman. My lack of experience in the dating department is no excuse for me to get scared anymore.

P.S. "Never doubt your ability," is a line from a love movie I watched yesterday.

Won't Go On Vicariously Again

I watched quite a bit of DVDs this week: Zombieland, The Ugly Truth, and some other Japanese television show called Operation Love. Let me talk about Zombieland first. It's a fun movie, but let me focus on the most important thing here. Emma Stone, the lead actress, was absolutely the sexiest woman I've ever seen! Her personality, reflected in her body language, was mesmerizing. Her green eyes, the twitch in her hips, and the way she bends her neck enabled her to score a perfect 10 on the sex-o-meter! It would be nice if there were women like that in Hong Kong. Sadly, there aren't, and I'll have to deal with it.

Now let me talk a bit about the first date scene in The Ugly Truth. When the man asked the waiter for some bottled water, the woman immediately insisted that he get tap water instead because it's filtered and just as clean and that he could save seven dollars. The man, obviously annoyed, insisted with the bottled water and ordered an extra Scotch on the rocks. He got so annoyed, he needed some whiskey to cool off. The woman then took out a printed copy of his online profile and said she thought he liked to drink red wine. Then she said, "Kudos to your insurance plan. Nope, it's not on your profile, but it's on your background check." The man had nothing to say, he wanted to leave on the spot but, being a gentlemen, waited a bit longer until the food arrived. He then grabbed the same waiter, handed him his credit card, and told him that if he could have his bill and car ready in 30 seconds, that he'll give him a 40 percent tip. In the next scene, the man jumped into his convertible, but the woman was right behind him. As if she hadn't been crazy enough, she accidentally spilled the ravioli over his lap. But the guy was actually the one with the last laugh as he caught her dress in his door and ripped her dress apart as he drove away. This movie shows us exactly what to avoid on a first date.

Operation Love revolves around a guy who's attending his former lover's wedding. For 14 years, he wanted to ask her out on a date but never had the courage to. But during the wedding, a ghost appeared and allowed the guy to go back in time to rectify certain key events, so that he might turn out to be the one marrying her. So far, he's traveled back seven times, sometimes being able to change things around, sometimes not. The eighth episode will show on Sunday, March 21, 2010.

Is Physical Attraction Important?

I finally saw some additional photos of the online girl and discovered that her looks aren't what I originally expected. I don't want to seem shallow, but shouldn't there be at least some physical attraction if I am to progress further? Or are all women the same and that the only determining factor for their looks is their skill with makeup? Part of me tells me to continue trying to date her in order to gain experience and confidence with women. But the other part of me tells me not to hurt her anymore than I already have. I stood her up once and argued with her thrice. I don't think a future inevitable breakup will do her any good. I'm not saying that I'll abandon all future contact with her. I'll continue having her as a good friend, it's just that the feeling might not be there anymore.

Butterflies In The Stomach?

I just sent out the SOS SMS. What is this feeling? Could it be butterflies in the stomach?

It's Great Being A Guy

I finally realized the super advantage of being a guy. It's that I can actively choose which girls to approach and how to approach. For a woman, all she can do is wait and hope that someone will fall for her. She's at a super disadvantage if her looks are below par. But even during the dating process, a man can call it off anytime, while the woman can only sit there, watching as the man leaves, not being able to initiate a phone call. That's not a good feeling, I think. Only if they're willing to bend the dating guidelines will they have a chance.

Being a man is great. Not only do you get a stick instead of a hole, but you can also actively control your destiny.

P.S. I think I know the reason why not many people are commenting on this blog. Because guys aren't comfortable letting other people know that they're looking into this topic. Well, if that's you, I just wanted to mention that you can post a comment anonymously. The reason why I want you guys to comment is because I don't have a counter on this page and I'm not sure if I have that many readers. If there aren't enough, I'll try to improve the quality of my content.

The Day Before Yesterday

On the day before yesterday, I screwed up big time on an MSN conversation with the online girl. I asked her if she's free to come out sometime this week. She said her schedule's packed. I thought that was some sort of polite rejection and knowing that I was rejected, I said that I didn't HAVE to meet her, that she looked like a hippo anyways. Then a volley of negative comments enraged. But the thing is... I still want to meet up with her. I'm not sure why, I just know. Now I'm comtemplating on an SOS SMS. Hope it'll work out.

Chinese New Tiger Year

This year, I went to "buy lean" for red pocket money as usual. There's a bit more money because one of my elder cousins got married. It made me remember once again that I'm single and never even went out on a date. But then I quickly remembered that getting a girlfriend is not for showing off, but to share feelings with. I'm confident that I can get a girlfriend soon, the question is if it'll happen this Tiger year.

Mistakes And Failure Are Good

I've been talking with the online girl up til now. Yesterday, I tried asking her for a second photo and she sort of freaked out, calling me a creep and other names. I was shocked, not to mention hurt, from the accusation. Finally I realized that she was afraid I'll use her photos to setup a fake account in those adult porn personals. Guess she still doesn't trust me that much. So I told her to be honest with me in the future about her concerns, because unlike women, I'm not a mind-reader. Then we continued talking about karaoke and stuff and she said she'll be looking forward to hear me sing. Man, after not singing for almost two years, I'll have to catch up quick!

This girl, I think I'm starting to care a little about her, even though she's so serious and not too funny. Last time, she told me that she was a Taurus. Although I'm not really into this kinda weird horoscope stuff, I tried looking for a horoscope book, only to be disappointed by the low stock volume of the small bookstore. Then I went home and searched for it on Wikipedia. What I'm trying to say is that she causes me to do things that I won't normally do. She makes me want to be a better person. And I guess that's a major part of what girlfriends are for. Girlfriends aren't used for showing off to people like trophies and pendants. They're there for us to share feelings with. They may leave us someday for some legitimate reason and if that happens to me, I'll be heartbroken. But that's actually a good thing.

And that's because mistakes and failures are good. They're not bad. Who said they're bad? You guessed it, our mind said it's bad. Well, think again. Imagine someone who never makes a single mistake. Yeah, there's no doubt he feels happy. But the fact that he doesn't make mistakes means he can never learn from them. And how can you improve when you never learn? He'll stay at the same level all along, while other people (who make mistakes) will learn and improve to surpass his level. So whoever said that mistakes are bad can shove it up his urinatory tract.

Oh yes, I continued talking with female strangers as always. The last one was just this afternoon, where I started talking from the elevator all the way until we parted outside the MTR station. We attended the same seminar and from her previous words with the instructor, I made a false judgement that she's too professional and picky. But as I started talking with her in the elevator, I found that she was actually pretty friendly. So for those who're planning to talk with female strangers, talk to all of them, except for smokers (5%) and really really super ugly ones (<1%). P.S. Due to a situation at home, I'll need to make more money. My preferred way is to work harder on my novel, writing 5000 words a week. I seriously hope I can achieve this. It beats having to grow old with my current job.