Never Doubt Your Ability

This is the phrase I'll chant to myself every time I approach a woman. My lack of experience in the dating department is no excuse for me to get scared anymore.

P.S. "Never doubt your ability," is a line from a love movie I watched yesterday.

It's Great Being A Guy

I finally realized the super advantage of being a guy. It's that I can actively choose which girls to approach and how to approach. For a woman, all she can do is wait and hope that someone will fall for her. She's at a super disadvantage if her looks are below par. But even during the dating process, a man can call it off anytime, while the woman can only sit there, watching as the man leaves, not being able to initiate a phone call. That's not a good feeling, I think. Only if they're willing to bend the dating guidelines will they have a chance.

Being a man is great. Not only do you get a stick instead of a hole, but you can also actively control your destiny.

P.S. I think I know the reason why not many people are commenting on this blog. Because guys aren't comfortable letting other people know that they're looking into this topic. Well, if that's you, I just wanted to mention that you can post a comment anonymously. The reason why I want you guys to comment is because I don't have a counter on this page and I'm not sure if I have that many readers. If there aren't enough, I'll try to improve the quality of my content.

Talking Is All Around

I've lost count of the number of strangers I've talked with during the last couple of days, but I estimate the number to be between 10 and 15. Some of the conversations are really short, while others are longer. Most of them are still males though, so that's the bad news. But the good news is that attractive women occasionally come to talk with me first.

This is an example from yesterday: I was walking as usual and three women, with baggages, were lost. I smiled a little at them and then the most attractive one asked me for directions. If I hadn't smiled or actively asked them if they were lost, I probably wouldn't get the chance to talk with them.

So far, it's still difficult for me to grab the opportunity to talk with women. However, when I see men in sticky situations (e.g. still sleeping on the last subway station of the train ride), I will talk to them briefly (e.g. wake them up before the train traps them and goes into repair). I believe all this active talking with strangers (including men) will lead to somewhere. At least next time when I see an attractive woman, I'll have a higher probability of approaching her.

As for the progress of my novel, I currently wrote 31120 words for my first draft. I'm not done yet. The final draft will have to be between 80000 and 100000 words if it is to be published.

P.S. Some women or people are quite difficult to talk with. I'm not saying that they're rude, quite the opposite. They're very friendly, but it seems like the conversations are forced and don't link up like a chain. However, I can tell there are some who use subtle tactics to make you feel at ease and to make lots of conversational topics pop up in your mind. I'm still trying to acquire that skill from Neil Strauss (the world's #1 PUA).

Second Attempt

Today, I finally talked a bit with a woman I'd been attracted to for a long time. Since it was 10 times more difficult to initiate conversation with her, I'll count this as talking to a stranger too. She had dark brown eyes, really dark brown hair, and clean teeth. To my surprise, she was actually pretty nice, at least during the conversation.

I'm not sure, but I think many women perceive me as visually intimidating. That may be one reason why some single women, who normally approach men, won't approach me. As of the moment, I can only recall less than 10 times when women have approached me. When I'm sitting alone on the subway, almost no women would sit next to me. What's with that? The whole train is flooded, but the seat next to mine is empty one-quarter of the time. Even men hesitate before they sit down. Hello! I'm just a normal person like anybody else.

I think I want to know this woman a bit more. She seems quite confident and I like that in women. People may initially assume insecure women to be nice, but actually their real personality (hidden underneath all the insecurities) may not match the original assumption.